Trouble Taking Turns? Struggle Sharing?

One of the first things we want our kids to learn is to share and to take turns. 

After all, these are crucial concepts to learn in life, but I think we need to take

a step back and think about the typical time that kids learn these skills and think 

different ways to teach kiddos on the spectrum these concepts. 

Firstly, typical three year olds have a really hard time understanding how to 

share and take turns. It is not until four or even sometimes five years of age 

where kids have a pretty good grasp and understanding of what it means to

share and how to take turns. So, if your three year old is fighting over toys with

his/her sibling, breathe a sigh of relief in knowing that kids are supposed to struggle

with this skill at that age! 

Now, we may verbally emphasize the importance of sharing and facilitate 

turn taking with our little ones, but what's going to happen when we're not

there to tell them? Let's think of a strategy where we can back ourselves out

of that process and help kids be more successful when they are participating in

center time at school, for example, and the teacher is not always part of the

group.

Below are so ideas of how to make this concept more clear:

For kids who are reading or recognizing familiar names we can simply jot the participants

names down and use an arrow or highlight the name to indicate whose turn it is.

I made one of the wheels for a family who needed help figuring out a way to show 

whose turn it was to pick the DVD on car trips. The child I was working with thought

he should always be the one to choose and had a meltdown when this was not the case 

so we used a more visual way to clarify the expectations for him.

These two methods are also great visual ways to indicate the turn taking process. 

You can use either digital photos or poker chips where the person manipulates

it by taking the photo/chip and putting it in the finished pocked at the bottom once 

the turn is taken. This way kidscan see ahead of time how many times they will

be able to go and help them understand that when it's the other person's photo

or chip, then it's his/her turn and the expectation is to wait.

These are just a few strategies you may try to help teach kids what it means

to share and take turns. Before you know it, they may get the hang out it 

and be doing it spontaneously! Hope everyone is having a great weekend!

- Molly

Social Thinking Curriculum and Comic Books

 You Are A Social Detective! Explaining Social Thinking to Kids by Michelle Garcia Winner and Pamela Crooke is a fun way to introduce appropriate social skills to kids struggling in this area. The book is written in comic book style with thinking bubbles to illustrate the character's thoughts. The book is intended for elementary age students or older, less mature individuals. It's divided into three sections:
1. School vs. Social Smarts and Expected Behavior
2. Unexpected Behavior, and
3. How to Be a Social Detective

The authors recommend using this book as a springboard for discussion with kids and in my experience, I agree. The book covers several topics that need to be separated out. I think it would be overwhelming to teach all of the concepts in one sitting. I love how visual it is and it's not overly wordy. It teaches the concepts and skills in a clear and straightforward way. Also, in the text certain key words or concepts are in bold to help point out the most important information. This book is also intended to be read as a precursor to the Superflex Curriculum described below:
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 SUPERFLEX..A Superhero Social Thinking Curriculum
also by Michelle Garcia Winner and Stephanie Madrigal is an

awesome resource for parents, teachers, and therapists. The book is comprised of 13 lesson plans to teach in social skills groups of elementary age children. The first set of lessons introduces the social thinking concepts and the characters through which the skills are taught, then the next series of lessons is designed to help kids gain awareness of their social behavior and ways to modify inappropriate behavior, and lastly this section is dedicated to self-monitoring strategies. Although I have not used this curriculum myself, I have seen it in action through one of our local social skills groups and the kids seem to have a great time with it! The group facilitator did share that as kids get older, however, they are not as interested in the superhero characters. Although the Social Detective book can easily be read on its own, this social curriculum really is intended for group use and several other comic books are used with the curriculum as well, like this one:
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  SUPERFLEX: Superflex takes on Rock Brain and the Team of Unthinkables written by Stephanie Madrigal is a cute comic book that can be purchased as part of the Social Thinking Curriculum package. It helps to introduce the characters and provides a fun way to frame social smarts through superheroes so that the children in the group do not feel like they are necessarily singled out. The premise of the comic is that The Team of Unthinkables are trying to take over Superflex and his town and through this story, kids learn specific strategies on how to overcome the "Team of Unthinkables." The book is a little busy , but I think it's a nice supplement to the Social Thinking Curriculum. Again, it's meant to be a part of the curriculum and not a book to buy by itself.

If parents familiarize themselves with the characters and terminology as well, it's really nice to use the lingo at home-- for example: "do you think you're being a Space Invader" (one of the "Unthinkables) or the "WasFunny Once" character for kids who seem get stuck on an inappropriate jokes/topics and repeat them over and over again, etc. In general this curriculum seems to be a nice, light way to talk about social skills in a kid-friendly way. Have fun with it and if your child or student has used this curriculum in some capacity, we'd love to hear what you think!

- Molly

ACTIVITIES ON THE ANGLE: Teaching Pretend Play

Many individuals on the autism spectrum have some difficulty with pretend play. Some children on the spectrum have extremely vivid imaginations and are extremely creative; however, we often find that some of our kids get in a rut when it comes to branching out in play themes and it's a struggle for many to know where to start in playing with toys.

 We hope to give a few ideas of how to make this abstract concept more concrete for our kiddos! Again, we do not always think about teaching these skills, but many children on the spectrum may be attending to details in the environment that may distract them from watching others to learn how to imitate them, which really is how typically developing children usually begin pretending. We sometimes see kids on the spectrum begin acting out scenes from television or movies, which is a great start and we want to help them expand these skills and to be more flexible.

Firstly, think about what may be motivating or interesting to your child, student, or client and use those toys to structure an activity. I will include an example of a play activity I just structured using an adorable little vet kit that I found on one of those online sale websites (they get me every time)! Most people have those beginning doctor's kits too, right?  You could use one of those with the child's favorite character-- (an Elmo stuffed animal, for example) so he/she could learn to play "doctor" with Elmo.

Next take photos of different pretend actions-- so here I took photos of me taking care of this puppy at the "vet"-- looking in his ears, checking his temperature, giving him a bone at the end of the "vet visit" etc.

Then, print the photos out-- I used 4 to a page so they were around regular photo size. I happened to purchase one of those overpriced laminating machines (Abby and I are working on a few other things to be debuted on the blog soon), but generally more sturdy paper, like card stock works great or you can even glue the printed photos to more sturdy folders-- whatever works, it does not need to be fancy or difficult!

Cut the photos out and hole punch the corner of each photo.

Then make a "flip book" by using a key or book ring so the child can flip through the pages to see what pretend action to perform. This is a concrete way to teach these pretend play skills and to increase flexibility, we encourage you to continuously change the order of the photos so the person does not memorize what to do and become rigid and insistent on only doing it that way... sound familiar anyone?

You can use this strategy with so many toys, just always remember to make it visual when teaching these extremely abstract concepts-- this will help make it more meaningful for the person with autism who is first learning these skills, and of course you can and should still engage in play with them and have fun during this process!

- Molly